Twenty
years ago, in Nashville, Tennessee, during the first week of January, 1996,
more than 4,000 baseball coaches descended upon the
Opryland Hotel for the 52nd annual ABCA’s convention.
While I waited in line to register with the hotel
staff, I heard other more veteran coaches rumbling about the lineup of speakers
scheduled to present during the weekend. One name kept resurfacing, always with
the same sentiment — “John Scolinos is here? Oh, man, worth every penny of my
airfare.”
Who is John Scolinos, I wondered. No matter; I was
just happy to be there.
In 1996, Coach Scolinos was 78 years old and five
years retired from a college coaching career that began in 1948. He shuffled to
the stage to an impressive standing ovation, wearing dark polyester pants, a
light blue shirt, and a string around his neck from which home plate hung — a
full-sized, stark-white home plate.
Seriously, I wondered, who is this guy?
After speaking for twenty-five minutes, not once
mentioning the prop hanging around his neck, Coach Scolinos appeared to notice
the snickering among some of the coaches. Even those who knew Coach Scolinos
had to wonder exactly where he was going with this, or if he had simply forgotten
about home plate since he’d gotten on stage. Then, finally …
“You’re probably all wondering why I’m wearing home
plate around my neck,” he said, his voice growing irascible. I laughed along
with the others, acknowledging the possibility. “I may be old, but I’m not
crazy. The reason I stand before you today is to share with you baseball people
what I’ve learned in my life, what I’ve learned about home plate in my 78
years.”
Several hands went up when Scolinos asked how many
Little League coaches were in the room. “Do you know how wide home plate is in
Little League?”
After a pause, someone offered, “Seventeen
inches?”, more of a question than answer.
“That’s right,” he said. “How about in Babe Ruth’s
day? Any Babe Ruth coaches in the house?” Another long pause.
“Seventeen inches?” a guess from another reluctant
coach.
“That’s right,” said Scolinos. “Now, how many high
school coaches do we have in the room?” Hundreds of hands shot up, as the
pattern began to appear. “How wide is home plate in high school baseball?”
“Seventeen inches,” they said, sounding more
confident.
“You’re right!” Scolinos barked. “And you college
coaches, how wide is home plate in college?”
“Seventeen inches!” we said, in unison.
“Any Minor League coaches here? How wide is home plate in pro
ball?”…………“Seventeen inches!”
“RIGHT! And in the Major Leagues, how wide home
plate is in the Major Leagues?
“Seventeen inches!”
“SEV-EN-TEEN INCHES!” he confirmed, his voice
bellowing off the walls. “And what do they do with a Big League pitcher who
can’t throw the ball over seventeen inches?” Pause. “They send him to Pocatello
!” he hollered, drawing raucous laughter. “What they don’t do is this: they
don’t say, ‘Ah, that’s okay, Jimmy. If you can’t hit a seventeen-inch target? We’ll
make it eighteen inches or nineteen inches. We’ll make it twenty inches so you
have a better chance of hitting it. If you can’t hit that, let us know so we
can make it wider still, say twenty-five inches.’”
Pause. “Coaches… what do we do when your best
player shows up late to practice? or when our team rules forbid facial hair and
a guy shows up unshaven? What if he gets caught drinking? Do we hold him
accountable? Or do we change the rules to fit him? Do we widen home plate?
“
The chuckles gradually faded as four thousand
coaches grew quiet, the fog lifting as the old coach’s message began to unfold.
He turned the plate toward himself and, using a Sharpie, began to draw
something. When he turned it toward the crowd, point up, a house was revealed, complete
with a freshly drawn door and two windows. “This is the problem in our homes
today. With our marriages, with the way we parent our kids. With our
discipline.
We don’t teach accountability to our kids, and
there is no consequence for failing to meet standards. We just widen the
plate!”
Pause. Then, to the point at the top of the house
he added a small American flag. “This is the problem in our schools today. The
quality of our education is going downhill fast and teachers have been stripped
of the tools they need to be successful, and to educate and discipline our
young people. We are allowing others to widen home plate! Where is that getting
us?”
Silence. He replaced the flag with a Cross. “And
this is the problem in the Church, where powerful people in positions of
authority have taken advantage of young children, only to have such an atrocity
swept under the rug for years. Our church leaders are widening home plate for
themselves! And we allow it.”
“And the same is true with our government. Our so-called
representatives make rules for us that don’t apply to themselves. They take
bribes from lobbyists and foreign countries. They no longer serve us. And we
allow them to widen home plate! We see our country falling into a dark abyss
while we just watch.”
I was amazed. At a baseball convention where I
expected to learn something about curve balls and bunting and how to run better
practices, I had learned something far more valuable.
From an old man with home plate strung around his
neck, I had learned something about life, about myself, about my own weaknesses
and about my responsibilities as a leader. I had to hold myself and others
accountable to that which I knew to be right, lest our families, our faith, and
our society continue down an undesirable path.
“If I am lucky,” Coach Scolinos concluded, “you
will remember one thing from this old coach today. It is this: “If we fail
to hold ourselves to a higher standard, a standard of what we know to be right;
if we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we
are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the
standard; and if our schools & churches & our government fail to hold
themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward
to …”
With that, he held home plate in front of his
chest, turned it around, and revealed its dark black backside, “…We have dark
days ahead!.”
Note: Coach Scolinos died in 2009 at the age of 91,
but not before touching the lives of hundreds of players and coaches, including
mine. Meeting him at my first ABCA convention kept me returning year after
year, looking for similar wisdom and inspiration from other coaches. He is the
best clinic speaker the ABCA has ever known because he was so much more than a
baseball coach. His message was clear: “Coaches, keep your players—no matter
how good they are—your own children, your churches, your government, and most
of all, keep yourself at seventeen inches.”
And this my friends is what our country has become and
what is wrong with it today, and now go out there and fix it!
We haven’t listened. Getting worse everyday!